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A Happy Spouse May Be Good for Your Health in the NY Times, By NICHOLAS BAKALAR discusses how happy spouses provide social support, and encourage you to eat a healthful diet. Additionally, William Chopkin, an assistant professor of psychology at Michigan State University, said “said that a happy spouse provides social support, and encourages you to eat a healthful diet and exercise, all of which can contribute to your good health. How many times have one of us gone on diets and focused on how spouses and children have made it impossible to keep to our diets? Many of us can relate to this focusing on how unhealthy snacks in the home and focus on all the ways their child dislikes eating healthy foods. These self-sabotaging thought often increase consumption of unplanned foods, which increase daily caloric intakes, making dieting close to impossible. There are so many things out of our control, however, many things are in our control such as what we eat, and how we nurture ourselves daily. Many clients tell me regularly all their self-defeating thoughts relating to how spouses do not support their diets create daily dissatisfaction. Often times, eating is social. Couples who eat together stay together. Make meal times more enjoyable by preparing different healthy foods that will make both feel supported in their journeys to wellness. Encourage and support each other’s goals, dreams, and aspirations by helping your spouse combat negative thinking that create overeating. Feeling well starts with what you eat daily and making exercise a priority as well.
Couples who play together stay together. Couples can join a fitness class together and often open up communication by discussing his or her fitness goals. This goes back to spouses supporting each another’s dreams and diets. Diets do not work. Couples can make small daily changes to their wellness to increase sticking to a long term sustainable diet for life model. This includes choosing times to eat what we want when we want, portion controlling, and allowing time to eat unplanned foods as well. The main goals to enjoy life with your spouse daily while still enjoying that wine or desert. Learn how to eat what you want when you want, making small adjustments by setting goals of when you will eat that desert or have wine. When we deprive ourselves to rigid diets, we often become deprived and end up binge eating. In my work as a diet coach, one piece of this focuses on “food pushers” often times this person is a spouse. When spouses or significant others are adaptable to changes made, sustaining long-term diets becomes more probable. Additionally, the couples who sign up for programs together, strengthen their relationship and deepen friendships.
Self-defeatist thoughts create the most failures for diets. At Therapy By Mindy, learn how to combat these self-defeating thoughts today. CBT Weight Loss Program is a psychological program, not a food plan. It doesn’t tell you what to eat – you can choose any nutritious diet you want. That’s because any reasonable diet will work for you if you have the right mindset. This program utilized CBT, DBT techniques, Mindfulness, Stress Management, Relaxation, and Self-Soothing. The CBT Weight Loss Program teaches you how to get yourself to eat the way you are supposed to eat. It shows you how to talk back to the “I don’t want to”,” I don’t have to”, or “I can’t” voice in your head.
The CBT Weight Loss Program is based on the principles of Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), the most highly researched form of talk therapy in the world. CBT is based on the concept that they way people think affects how they feel and what they do. CBT helps you to identify your sabotaging thinking and effectively respond to it, so you feel better and can behave in helpful ways. The word “cognitive” refers to how one thinks or feels at a particular moment. A central idea in Cognitive Therapy is that emotions and feelings are significantly related to thinking. Perception and interpretation of events powerfully affect emotional, behavioral, and physical responses. Emotional disturbances (e.g., anxiety, depression) are seen as a result of distorted ways of interpreting life experiences. Typically, negative thoughts are incorrect or are an exaggeration of the truth. The third phase is to challenge negative thoughts by responding back to them with a more accurate, realistic way of thinking. Clients are taught to utilize this process outside of therapy sessions. CBT helps you to solve both practical and psychological problems and learn new thinking and behavioral skills – skills you’ll be able to use for the rest of your life. You’ll not only overcome your current problems but also learn how to use your new skills to overcome future problems.